How an Erotic Therapist Can Save Your Relationship
I have often been asked whether I believe in marriage. Personally, I do not believe in the institution of marriage. I have never been married; the idea has never suited me. Although I am an erotic therapist, that is not why I do not believe in marriage. I do not believe in marriage because I have seen it fail too often due to infidelity.
People have this preconceived notion that you need to get married, have children and buy an expensive home. The media perpetuates this myth with television shows like “The Brady Bunch” that depict the perfect family. From an early age, we are exposed to the idea that it is attainable to have a home life like the Brady family. Sometimes we are influenced by the media. At other times we are influenced by our own cultural backgrounds and childhood upbringings.
People want to get married because they think it’s the right thing to do. They have been programmed to believe that they want children and a house with a white picket fence, but they don’t realize all the hard work that comes next. My relationships advice is that you need to have realistic expectations.
My parents are divorced; my mother raised me alone. She remarried, but that marriage also ended in divorce. Her second husband also remarried and divorced. Eventually they reunited but did not remarry. It works for them, but it is difficult to explain their relationship status to outsiders. My biological father also remarried after the divorce.
Most people cannot tolerate each other several years into a relationship. They get tired, bored and frustrated by the same routine at home and in the bedroom. The result is that many men cheat on their spouses when their relationships and the sex become boring. When people ask me for relationships advice, I candidly tell them that enlisting the services of an erotic therapist can go a long way toward ensuring the sex doesn’t lose its sizzle. That’s the best advice on sex that I can give.
As a women, I can honestly say that I have never cheated on anyone. I am not currently in a relationship, and that is fine with me. Most girl learn that the beginning stages of a relationship are exciting and new. Unfortunately those exciting and new feelings soon turn stale and repetitive.
During my time as an erotic massage therapist, I have seen many couples who are looking to expand their sexual horizons. These couples have one thing in common. Even if they have been together for many years, they have not tired of each other. They are confident enough in their relationships to have an erotic therapist meet them in a hotel room, pleasure the man and woman by erotic tantric massages and leave. They are sexually satisfied. They are honest with each other, and cheating is not an issue because they have their needs met in a controlled environment.
When a man tells me that his partner has cheated on him, I always ask why and how did that happened. There is always a reason for infidelity at any stage of a relationship. Cheating is common for many reasons, but infidelity can be avoided most of the time.
If your partner no longer loves you, then the relationship is essentially over. However, if there is still love between you, then the problem may be that one of you is no longer interested in having sex. Human beings have a need to touch and be touched. If you cannot fulfill that need for your partner, then my advice on sex is that you should agree to enlist the services of an erotic therapist to save your relationship.
by Ruby @ Velvet Massage
